Saturday, March 17, 2007

Not Morbid But Empathetic

I've read blogs of many, many P.I.M.'s (Parent(s) In Mourning).

I've been moved to tears many, many times at the depth of feeling that has been beautifully weaved into a blanket of words. Powerful words. Powerful not only because they are skillfully pieced together in just the right order but because someone has WRITTEN EXACTLY what I am FEELING, or have already been through. That is understandable since we have experienced similar losses.

I also read other blogs. Things, of course that I also can identify with such as, mommy blogs, infertility etc..

With the exception of infertility and pregnancy/infant loss, most of the others NEVER venture over to each other.

Today was an exception.

Today while reading Tracey's, Just Another Mommy Blog, I was caught completely off guard. She was (while watching a movie) FEELING for those of us who have lost our babies. Now, I know that when faced with the situation most people would sympathize. The thing is that she has never had this happen to her and STILL addressed the issue on her "Normal Mommy" blog.
This tells me that more people are AWARE that we are here, and are trying to understand because they care. Tracey, thanks for putting this out there to all your unsuspecting readers!

Here's an excerpt (yes, stolen) from her post...

"I held onto my baby and cried for all the moms who are truly aching for their babies. No matter their age when they pass away, they will always be our babies. And your arms will always ache for them. I know many moms, online and in real life, that have this pain. This pain that I am only imagining...
I am so sorry you have to feel it...
I remember all of your children, and ache for you..."

Maybe, just maybe, the more 'comfortable' people are with us... the more 'comfortable' we can be talking, laughing, crying and remembering with them. And when asked how many children we have we CAN say;" I'm a parent to __ and a P.I.M. to__" AND they will actually UNDERSTAND!

Just a thought.


Tracey said...

Oh Ruby... I am so moved that you felt that way. Truly. And you were definitely one of those mothers I was referring to.

Mike said...

That's very heart-warming.


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