Wednesday, August 01, 2007

Alone? Or not?

When you feel really down. I mean when Murphy's Law has taken up permanent residency at your place, and thats in ADDITION to the grief of having lost your baby. Do you like to be alone? Or would you prefer to be in the company of good friends and/or family?

I know that some people would prefer to be alone. Like, don't talk to me, look at me, and never, EVER try to comfort me! On the other hand some like the support, the shoulder of an understanding friend or family member, they NEED someone to cry with.

What if your not sure? You want to be alone yet want to know that someone understand. REALLY, like I've been through this too, understands. Or even, I don't understand but I won't pretend to and I'll be there for you no matter what.

How about you? Do you need to be alone? Or not?


Tracey said...

Well, I don't have the additional heavy grief that you have daily... but with other issues from mild to serious, I prefer for someone to make themselves available, and then to leave me alone to ask for help. I HATE it when someone asks me if I need anything, etc., to just ask for help... and then they KEEP ON OFFERING. Seriously? If I needed the help, I'd ask. I would. Now go away cuz you're bugging me.

niobe said...

Alone. All alone. Don't even think about coming near me. (but you already knew that)

Angel Mom said...

I prefer to be alone. Don't look at me. Don't bother me. And don't even think about talking to me. I eventually get to the point where I want someone nearby but my initial reaction is almost always to be alone.

Rosepetal said...

Mostly like being alone. That's partly because there are few people who react in a helpful way to grief. I used to be one of them.

Contrary to what tracey says, I think people should keep calling, as sometimes you say no or don't call back several times in a row, then they just never call again. It's easier for them to go back to their lives than for you to learn how to live with a new reality. A woman who was widowed young told my mother that and it seems true in my experience.